If you are like me, youre always thinking, in the back of your mind, how am I ever going to be sure my kids learn all the lessons they need in order to become good adults—the people they were meant to be in every sense. Maybe, just maybe, we dont need to worry so much.
This Christmas, my kids were given a sum of money they could donate to the charity or charities of their choice. I figured I would need to prime the pump, Read more...
so I had cut out Nick Kristoffs annual column on worthy charities (”buy a girl in this country a school uniform so she can attend school”, etc.). To my surprise, however, each of my daughters, when presented with the donation concept, knew exactly where she would send her money.
My one daughter wanted to give all her money to the shelter from where our dog had come...which entailed a FaceBook message to her cousin who is stationed in Mumbai with the State Department to find out from which shelter she had gotten the dog. (We had takent the dog from her, before she took her first assignment.) As a result, a no-kill shelter in August, Georgia received a donation from a girl they didnt know in New Jersey.
My second daughter was equally clear: one half to the Smile Train (she was born with a cleft lip and palate) and one half to the Christ Child Society. Her desire to contribute to our Society floored me. Yes, she had probably been at one of the Garage Sale set ups, and attended a Christmas party at the home for girls in West Orange a few years back, but other than that, I dont think she had, personally
participated in any activities. My only conclusion is that she observed my participation in the Christ Child (and I am always thinking Im never doing enough in this regard) and she had some idea of the goals of the CCS (helping kids who need it). She had no doubts where her money could be used best.
So, at least in this case, the old saw holds true: that kids learn from what you do, no matter what you say.